Changes to be made

When the way I drove to work, there were a lot of questions floating in my mind. Part of the reason is because I attended two conference/training this month.

The training at Bukit Tinggi emphasized that we have to accept change. The conference yesterday said that we have to plan, set target, and change.

I do agree with yesterday speakers. What kind of signal you sent you, what kind of result you receive. And what I want?
1) My Family
I treat my family nicely, I cut 90% of my temper. Now, I feel better, and easier to communicate with them. I do not think that I scarify to my family anymore, I found the fun of my "scarify". I want to keep myself happy, not to let my family worry about me. I want to be able to share my happiness with them all time.
2) My Colleagues
I try to treat them like friends. And I think I am giving 80% to myself, because I still cannot handle a couple of them. Sometimes, I need to be firm with my decision too. However, I want to be more professional, I have to keep a distance with them.
3) My friends
Yes. I think I mostly get alcoholics friends. So no issue. Well, I always treat my friends nicely, if I think s/he worth it. I will not forget them or leave them. Hope that they will treat me the same. I want to make sure I do keep in touch with them.
4) My lover?
I treated him 100% nice all time. But...I don't have one now. I think I'll treat him 80% nice for my future bf. Why? Then, he can appreciate what I have done to him. For love, it's not 100% you give, you will receive 100%.
I think I have a big issue here. The kind of lover I attracted to, is actually reflected how I portrait myself. I thought so, so I changed from LA LA LOOK to now more matured look. And yet, with this matured look, I attracted married uncles. And friend told me that I look like the best affair partner. OMG!!! Do I? I always looking forward to be legal wife. I am preparing to be good wife. I am caring, lovely, humour, good in cooking, honest (I won't lie to him, because I can't lie. Everyone can tell if I lie), trying to be environmental friendly, sporty, and independent (of course 50% will do). I am ready to be LEGAL WIFE! NOT AFFAIR PARTNER.

I do not mind he is a single uncle, but not too old. I just want to make sure that his residual years of life is not too short. I am not looking forward to receive his property and assets from his will shortly within a couple of years. Of course, I will not reject it, if I have to. I am looking for more spiritual type. I wish to have respect from him to me, and my family. I promise I will do the same. Secondly, freedom! There should be room for both parties. Thirdly, plan, and personal growth. He has to plan our future together, and grow himself personally, and his career. I do not agree if he would like to stay at his comfort zone. There is always rooms to grow. I am prepared to take the risk together, of course please talk to me, let us measure the risk together. I will learn with him.

I do believe also we have to kept changing ourself to make ourself more compatible. It has to be from in-to-out. You can't stop changing. You should change from fashion, look, update your knowledge. You can do it from read more books, further study, make more friends, wider your network, travel more, attend training (I only like technical training) and please share if you have other methods.

Please also accept changes. If you do not ready for changes, you might be depress and have mental problem. It's just like who Desmond met last weekend. A girl scolded him at a coffee shop, while he meeting his friend. The girl treated Des as her ex-bf, who left her after his study. Please, if she can accept the change of his ex-bf, move on. Go to find another better guy, this guy not worth for her to love him, and not worth for her to lose herself, to be insane.

My Present of the Year

Thank you to Ernes who invited me to go to today's conference.

Besides learning how to balance life to be career woman, we got goodies bags, and lucky draw that he mentioned to me on Saturday. And guess what?!? I WON THE FIRST PRIZE of the LUCKY DRAW. I am getting lucky!LUCKY! and LUCKY!! It's RM 1000 worth of the diamond shop's voucher. I thought of to get a platinum ring. But think over again, right now without ring I also do not have "kang tao" to find bf, I can't imagine if with ring. Then, I should say tata to guys, and my potential marriage life. Then, I can then consider to be single forever, or be lesbian forever, or combination of single and lesbian forever.

Is today set for me to be point of change of my life? Is this hinting me that, I am getting luckier and I am gonna have my career path like those speakers? and am I getting the voucher because I am going to have the right guy to be my husband?

My friend told me that, it's time to find for husband not bf anymore. She was not wrong, but....I doubt, will I be happy if I direct to find for husband. The most difficult life time decision.

By the way, I kind of sensed that I am lucky today. I told Su Yee that, I found myself look good today. I think it's because I have very Bright Luck this morning that I actually noticed! cool! Don't Stop. I don't mind it keeps rushing to me.

Good (Note: Not Great) Dinner When You Are Alone

Well we all have a headeache when it comes to preparing dinner for ourselves only. You may want to do this when

1) You do not want to go through the hassle preparing food as you see it no point cooking sumptuous meal for yourself.
2) You don't feel like eating out alone.
3) You don't want to da bao (take-out). Maybe you are on tight budget. Maybe you are sick of eating outside food. You're lazy to go out etc.

For this dinner treat, I assume that you are
1) A moderate dieter.
2) You don't mind consuming a little oil.
3) You go to the gym and you want something with more protein.

The dinner that will save your day is the double egg sandwich!

Using common ingredients, you still can have a reasonably healthy meal.

You have some eggs and bread at home. If you are conscious about what you eat, I'm sure you will have some wholemeal bread. Just fry two eggs, toat some breads. Spread the margarine on the bread, and sandwich your fried eggs! To zest it up, add some black pepper when you fry it. Then add ketchup on your sandwich. This one goes very well with milk. If you have instant cream soup, go boil the water and make some!

I guarantee satisfaction after eating it as the dinner can never be this easy and healthy. Yummy.

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Unrelating to the blog entry above, I just found out something interesting.

Do you know how broke you can be if both of you and your boyfriend/girlfriend like home furnishing, interior design and decoration a lot?

When both of you walk into home furnishing shops like Ikea, it's like shopping paradise and it makes you forget all your financial problems! Both of you contribute a lot of idea on how to make over your living spaces, not to mention that the home make-over can take place 12 times a year. If both of you agree on something, you get excited and grab all the stuff. Can you imagine if both of you walk into high-end shops like Lorenzo instead?

Cyber Drinking

Like cybersex, you can have drinks with your party mates online and enjoy all the gibberish chat.

It also reaps the benefits of cybersex, providing a safe environment and convenience. You do not have to worry about drink and drive, or getting caught by the police. If you pass out, the worse thing that can happen is you just bang your head on the keyboard, using it as a pillow and just sleep.

If you need to puke, you can use your already familiar toilet bowl in your beloved washroom. That way you can hug your toilet bowl and throw up in comfort.

Maybe you feel horny. But to avoid embarassment of being rejected, you may want to masturbate secretly without your drink mates knowing it.

How to initiate it?
All these can be done through instant messaging. You can use email, assuming fast response.

1. Setup the mood. Mood is very important. Maybe switch on some club music. Chillout music may do but you need something up-beat to heat things up.
2. Suggest to your drink mate that you need to drink. Express that if he/she wishes to join you. Make sure this is really a drink mate, i.e. he/she never rejects your suggestion going to the bar/pub/club in real life before. You gotta select your online drink mate carefully. A rejection may break the mood.
A more effective of suggesting is to have the drink mate empatize your need of drinking.
Have conversations like:
"I caught a cold. Sneezing now. Do you think red wine will help? Do you want to join me?"
or, if he/she is an easy-going person or an almost alcoholic, you might as well just say "Wanna drink?"
3. He/she may starts to response. If it's positive, then she will reply saying:
"Wait for me, i'll open up a bottle of red wine now."
"I'll have to wash some glass(es), otherwise I won't be able to drink."
or, if he/she is an easy-going person or an almost alcoholic, he/she might as well just say "It's a freaking good idea! I gotta finish my vodka tonight".

How to get things going?
1. If you are using IM like yahoo or msn messenger, download lots of wine glasses/booze/shot glasses/drunken face/beer/cheers emoticons or icons. Occasionally, you want to pop those things up in the message occasionally to elevate the mood.
2. Say "cheers" more often. We all like lots of cheers.
3. Talk gibberish and act like drunk although you are not drunk yet. That's the thing about cyber, you can always act without revealing.
4. You may want to reinforce phrases like "i'm so freaking drunk", "i'm so high", "i'm so excited", "this is so much fun" etc from time to time.
5. Always invite more and more drink mates to join as they come online. THE MORE THE MERRIER.
6. Say stupid jokes like:
"Hey I found that warm tissues can make you feel better from running nose. Just put/recycle your tissues directly beside the ventilator of your laptop
"I think my subconsious makes me heard things that can lead me to more booze."

How to end things (gracefully and politely)?
1. Always have emergency chat phrase that's easy to type like "zzzzzzzzz" or create a shortcut key to emoticons depicting people banging on the keyboard and sleep.This way, you may not let your drink mates wait. Because he/she can't see you, so you must let him/her know when you will pass out.

Of course, unless you have a web cam and live conferencing. Then, that is a different story.

Aliyah II

If you could remember, I wrote about Aliyah II before. She is really Wok Wok fresh. Never under estimate her understanding.

We always cannot find our clothes because she mixed it up all the places. And today, finally I remember to ask her help me to find for my legger. And she told me, I asked her to throw away. DID I??? WOULD I??? My dear, I would not throw my new clothes. I am still wondering what is another piece that she has thrown away. She told me total 3 pieces. At this point of time, I estimate I lost a total minimum of RM 200 worth of clothes. And that's not included those that we lose without reason.

I am so sad. Very much wanna shout out @!$#$%^&*((_)(^%$$%^&$%*(&^$#%@@##$%^$#$%_)(&^#@$%^&%$#@#$%^&^%$$
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Traffic Light

Today I went outstation to work with my colleague, Shan. And we met another colleague, Simon in Melaka. Then, we went in one car to Batu Pahat for outlet inspection.

Simon is an English educated 40 years old man. He speaks Southern P. Malaysia Hokkien, Mandarin, and English.

During the trip, due to run out of conversation topic again, and I asked him, how does he say traffic light in Mandarin. 红绿灯 (hong2 lu4 deng1), or 红青灯(hong2 qing1 deng1). I was taught to say 红绿灯 when I was in Butterworth, and it's set in my mind. But Klang Valley and Southern P.Malaysia peoples call it 红青灯.

He said, why people say it 红粒灯(hong2 li4 deng1)? is that because the shape of the traffic light? hahahaha....he could not imagine that's different word. We laughed till we drop. An English educated Simon. He can't produce 鱼 (fish, yu2). He pronounced it like 倚(yi2). hahhaaaha

Some Great Excuses

I have done a little research on myself recently - going cold turkey on smoking. The conclusion of the research is that I gain a few pounds within a week. Food is the substitute for ciggies, at least for me. Whenever I have the craving for smoking, I start to churn on chips, chocolates or sodas. So now I have to make a big decision: to gain weight or to resume smoking. Being so self concious myself, of course I choose the latter. But I compromise a little bit. I can become a weekend smoker. Note: a weekend smoker lights up ciggies more often than a social smoker *wink*
Another way to stop smoking is to start drinking. But this doesn't have any effect on me because I am already one. So this is definitely out.

Or, shop til you drop. Make yourself excited until you forget about smoking. But I'm broke!

Alternatively, try great sex. But that cannot be done because my craving kicks in at rather odd places like shopping malls, offices or at home alone. No this can't make it.

I'm so stressed out. I need a smoke.

Arrrgh.

Adam's speech

I miss Adam in his younger age. I couldn't remember so much about him when he was younger. I am so regret now. Alot of the time I will look at this younger photos and try to feel that time and to remember him that time. All I know that he was a much more cuter, happier and better child at that time.

Maybe because I am a first time mum and I do not really spend much time with Adam as I work full time. Also, he spend most of his time in childcare associating with kids and careers. Alot of things that really surprised me from Adam at his age. I have never imagined a kid who is just 2 years old can understand so much, can speak so much and can do so much. Therefore almost everyday I learnt something new about Adam.

For example just today, I took him to the balcony and he saw the lightning which was his first time. He was surprised and said light !! I said yeah its light, but its lightning. And he goes yeah lightning. Then he saw another lightning and he remembered to say "look mama, its lightning. What happen? its gone!!" It is my first time to hear he said "what happen".

Last night, I was in the kitchen with Adam, I was scratching my tummy for some reason it was itchy. Maybe the way i scratched its funny, he looked at me and he said "what are you doing?" He looked like he got a big question mark on his face ! I cracked up ! He looked so funny. Time to time he will come to me and say "mama, what are you doing"? If I am in the toilet he will also knock the door and say "mama, you wee wee? or you poo poo? or you shower?"

Adam loves to sing and dance alot. I assume that the childcare centre taught the kids how to sing and dance. Recently when I was lying on bed beside him to wait him to sleep, he will a song and dance with his hands in the air. And suddenly he will said to himself "just a second...ok..just a second" then he re-start again the same song and repeat the same dancing. I think he has forgotton the way of the dance and he tried to remember how to dance and sing together.

One thing about Adam is really really amaze me is that when he speaks to his dad, he speaks Arabic, when he speaks to me he speaks English. How can she tell the different language? One day we went out to a shop, its a lebanese sweet shop, it was quite busy and we got to wait there, Adam found a table and ran there to get a seat. Then he shouted to his dad when putting his little hand onto the seat that next to him and said " baba or ji " Or ji means sit down in arabic. Then he shout to me and say" mama sit !" I was surprised. The other customers were surprised also and asked my husband is he your son? he speaks arabic? and he could tell what language to speak to who? Whenver Adam needs to drink water, he will usually ask me first and said " mama I want water" sometimes I am so lazy to move and he saw me not getting him the water then he goes to his dad and said " baba maya" Maya means water in arabic. There are more words that he can speak in English and Arabics as well.

Lately I taught him to say "sik c or fan = eat shit poo rice". He said that very loud all the time as he could sense its like a scolding. But he can only say " or fan !!!!!" It is so funny !!! He can also say "gang gang = means scare scare in cantonese" and "hark ma ma = means very dark in cantonese" When he feels scare he always say gang gang arr...gang gang arr...the way he pronouce is really funny.

Normall my husband showers Adam and I prepare dinner. But recently I do not know why Sam wants to help me alot and do most of the house works including cooking. So tonight I got a chance to shower Adam and I realised he has grown up so much and he is getting vert tall now. I really love it everytime when he is about to close his eyes he will say "good night mama" softly. Ohh my god, I couldnt hold mymself to give him a big big kiss that almost can suck him up.

I love him dearly. I cannot see myself living without him. I am even so silly to think that if I am going to have second child, what will happen to Adam? How much love I can spare to balance him and the second one. I scare that when I have the second child I will ignoring him gradually but that is what I do not want to be happened. That is why sometimes I jsut want to have Adam only because I want to give my 100% love and attention to him. IS that a silly thought?

My thought at this moment

Its Friday night and my husband is out to his buddies gathering as usual. Arabs love to gather quite often weekdays and weekends though they are seeing each other almost everyday at work. Adam is asleep and I am glad that I have abit of space for myself.




I just thought of the blog and I feel like I want to type something but i am not sure what should I put as the title as it seems like its gonna be anything from my mind, nothing particular. So I name it as my thought as this moment.




Speaking about my job we got a new lady who just started on Monday as one of my collegue she is going for plastic surgury on September and my manager is going for a long holiday or may not come back to the company. My boss is selling the business. Manager is leaving on August, and my collegue is going for the surgury on September and I am leaving the job on November.



Guess what, my boss only recently decided to hire someone and eventually he got a friend of his who is much more older than us and she is a mother who is coming back to workforce after X years. I was told that she worked as Admin before as well as worked in IT department. We thought waooo not bad, someone who is experienced who can catch up faster. Surprisingly, I got to sit down with her to teach her how to create folders in her computer and her email accounts to save documents and I got explain to her why we are doing this. She managed to lose some emails. Hmm..wondering...someone has worked in IT department but do not really know to create folders???? At this point I can really see the problems that going to be happened to me and to this company after my Manager and the collegue left. We do not have much time and she seems slow because we even need alot of time to teach her how to operate the computer, to use words and excel, let alone to do customer servive and process a loan application. I started to worry. She is an australian borned lebanese, she speaks perfectly well English. Guess what she got herself wrote down on her note how to answer the call " Good morning Austar Financial group, this is Nadwa speaking, how can I help you?" From yetesrday we started to let her to answer the phone calls. Everytime she will ask me do you want me to answer it, I said yes. And she quickly flip through her note book and find the page of how to answer the call, the phone still ringing, our policy is never let the phone rings more than 3 times, the 3rd ring has to pick up. Finally she got the page and picked up the phone and she started to read from her note book : good morning bla bla bla" My collegue and I were speechless. Just because she is our boss's family friend, therefore we not dare to make any negative comments about her and also because we really need someone to replace.




I really wish that my boss could get his loan book sold as soon as possible because I really dont want to work until November. There are 2 interest parties at the moment and negotiating. The deal is acceptable but my boss is just not happy of the payment method of the upfront and installment.



My boss is a tight ass to the extreme point. We used to claim from petty cash when we buy tissues, plastic plates, cups, etc for office use, but he saw us been using those things alot, therefore he told my manager we are no longer allow to claim those shopping from petty cash. Whenver whoever goes out to buy lunch to everyone, we give our money to the person. My boss obviously to give the exactly amount i assume he scares that we will not give him back his change. KIASU !!!!




I really wish to get out of my job as soon as possible but just because I am going holiday in few months time so it is not good to get a new job at the moment.

Nintendo Wii

Heee....I found a new way for exercise. It's not boring, and it's so much of fun. Chris (the July's visitor) is in Malaysia. He brings along his Nintendo Wii to my parents' house, with 4 consoles!

Due to some technical issue, the games cannot present with colours. So we are playing with black and white pictures. So, there is limit of games to play just black and white. Yet, it is so much fun.

We play bowling, tennis, baseball, and golf. It's virtual games, therefore you really need to use your real power to get better result. You may cheat, but then it will be less fun if you don't play like real game.

With my sport spirit, I have played very tiring games, except that I did not need to run around, I really used up energy and power from my arm, and back. I have my body ache. And I am very bad, I forgot to do my homework. Now I know why my parents didn't allow us to play so many games during our schooling time. They knew that we will loose control, and forget the "important" homework. Now I regret. I will have to do it last minute tomorrow.
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Dish Out

A new vocabulary, Dish Out.

Traditionally, it means when you are ready with the dishes, you may get it ready on the table. This is called DISH OUT.

I didn't know that we also can DISH OUT ourselves too. For example, you have been single for quite some time. And you found yourself getting bored with the current single life, therefore you are looking for a new companionship. If you kept looking in a very low profile manner, the chances to get the companion is lower. If you make it high profile, to sell yourself to someone else, you then achieve the meaning of DISH OUT! You will use many methods to make yourself outstanding to your target.

In short, Dish Out can describe as put yourself on the table, in Cantonese it is "bai yourself seong toi". Let others aware of you!

Souled Out Day

I have been outstation to Kuantan for market visit on last Thursday and Friday. Then from there, I drove to Bukit Tinggi for training.

We have had whole Saturday for training. And a war game in the evening. We were separated into two groups. We are asked to light up 3 candles at the opposite base. We were given matches, water balloons as bomb, and water guns. The rules said whoever got bomb means die, must walk out from the game. I got bomb not very long after started. But those peoples who got my gun shots were not die after I shoot too, they seems healthy. Then, I decided to go back for the game. I told myself, if the referee asked me to out, I will tell him I am now just a soul, "Yun Wan Bat Sun". That's why I back for game.

It was raining when we half way playing it. So, it's even more fun, nobody scared to get wet. My colleague was funny, he took the other team's candle, and keep it. So, when they reach our base, they were not be able to light up candles too. This is a very good strategy! I am thinking to apply it to my life haha...

And the other team complaint to referee said that our team took their bomb to hit them. Haha... we enter their base without their notice, they didn't have good defense and still complain us. What a shame.... ha...

Then after the game, we went for wine at one of the apartment. We drank a lot. I was High. And today, Sunday morning I woke up early, and I drove back from Bukit Tinggi to class. I found myself souled out. Therefore, I decided to skip morning class. I then attend lunch meeting with my group members, and have more productive afternoon class.

When I reached the meeting place, I found myself want to vomit. My hung over feel was not overred yet. I lost my voice too. I shouted too much during last night war game. I sound sexy today. Then, I was too tired that caused me couldn't speak a single word. I over stretched myself. I found it funny. I never have such badly souled out experience. I recovered after few hours later. I can then talk to my group members, and apologize for my non-speaking meeting. Ha!....The way they looked at me was so strange. I guess looked like a lost direction's soulless ghost.

I love this rubbish bin design.

Adam wasn't really enjoy the day as he was scared at the entrance and now he got scared from these two THINGS. We also had to force him to go to there to take a photo. Poor adam.

This day the moon was absolutely HUGE !!!! I took this photo from my house and I just zoom abit to capture it. Isnt it beautiful?

Luna Park in Sydney

Adam was so scared by that big face and he refused to go in. We got to close his eyes and dragged him inside.

The Greatest Question On Earth

You may not know this. Your name may be translated in many different ways in different dialects or languages. For instance, the french surname La Vine may be spelled differently in Canada. It may be called La Vigne. Or it may be called LaVin in the United States.

Same goes to Chinese. The same character can sound differently in many dialects. It depends on which Chinese Tribe you belong to. I am hakka and my Chinese name is Kim Fatt.

If one day you and your friend ran out of conversation and you want him to definitely respond you, you may want to ask him questions like, "Why your name is not Kim Huat instead?". He, of course effortlessly, answer you "because I am not hokkien." Easy? Well, I'm trying to find more of questions like this. Next time, maybe I can ask these kind of questions back to her when running out of conversations.

- A C -

July

July in Chinese Lunar Calender is a very big festive event in the year. It's called the Ghost Month. Peoples use roast pork, roast chicken, roast duck, fruits, canned items, and those paper collections to pray, and to burn to the "brothers". It's the ghosts opened days. Its free days for them to move freely. Therefore, in July usually we are not encouraged to go out in the night time.

And I wonder if Caucasian has this type of festive or not. FYI, Hong Kong people call white, as "guai lou". The "ghost man".

And I wonder if my sis's bf, Chris is one of the guai lou who has Chinese believe. He comes to Malaysia every July since my sister came back from study. July is his opened day! He is coming again this Friday, July the 20th. :P

My New Housemate

I'll have a new house mate to move in this evening. He is Sharon's high school mate. Obviously, we are going to develop our relationship, BAO ZHOU POH (land lady) and FONG HAK's (tenant's) type of course.

Fan is in service line. His income is very much depending on how much services he provides to his clients. The more he works on it, the more he earns. Of course, he has to be professional, VERY PROFESSIONAL! And according to him, every time after work, he is very tiring. Please use your imagination for the type of service industry he is in. I am not convenience to tell, as his pictures are on the "air". hahahaha...

By the way, I can't wait to share his look with you guys hahahhaha...enjoy! I'll take the risk of being killed. hahhhahahha

What's alcoholism?

Hey All,

Please help yourself by going through the article below, especially ah Nam. Please check it
out if you were not sure about yourself, whether you are alcoholic. This source is provided by Patrick, who said I am alcoholic.

What are the signs and symptoms of alcohol abuse and alcoholism?

The Mayo Clinic provides a list of signs and symptoms that indicate that an abusive relationship to alcohol exists:

• Drinking alone or in secret
• Not remembering conversations or commitments—sometimes referred to as "blacking out"
• Making a ritual of having drinks before, with or after dinner and becoming annoyed when this ritual is disturbed or questioned
• Losing interest in activities and hobbies that used to bring pleasure
• Irritability as usual drinking time nears, especially if alcohol isn't available
• Keeping alcohol in unlikely places at home, at work or in the car
• Gulping drinks, ordering doubles, becoming intoxicated intentionally to feel good or drinking to feel "normal"
• Having legal problems or problems with relationships, employment or finances

According to The National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism, the following four additional symptoms indicate that an alcohol abuse problem has developed into an addiction to alcohol:

• Craving – A strong need, or urge, to drink
• Loss of control – Not being able to stop drinking once drinking has begun
• Physical dependence – Withdrawal symptoms, such as nausea, sweating, shakiness, and anxiety after stopping drinking
• Tolerance – The need to drink greater amounts of alcohol to get "high.

How do I know if I have a drinking problem?

If you suspect you may be developing a drinking problem, ask yourself these four questions:

• Do you need a drink as soon as you get up?
• Do you feel guilty about your drinking?
• Do you think you need to cut back on your alcohol consumption, but cannot?
• Are you annoyed when other people make comments about your drinking habits?

If your honest answer to two or more of these questions is yes, than you probably have an alcohol problem and should seek help right away. For information on alcohol dependence treatment, see Helpguide’s Alcohol Abuse and Addiction: Self-Help, Prevention, and Treatment Options.

Source from http://www.helpguide.org/mental/alcohol_abuse_alcoholism_signs_effects_treatment.htm#problem_drinking

Schooling Life

Today is second weekend that I attended class. It's really a lot to learn, and a lot to do. And there are really many peoples around are growing aggressively. There is endless point for study.

As a Kia Su-rean, I think I made the right move that I decided to go back for study. It's the only way to keep myself more competitive, and make myself to think more logically.

I need to adjust my lifestyle from now on, not that I can't go for party/ or I can't drink anymore. But, I need to allocate time for study, and assignments. Lucky that I found I can keep my party time for my friends. I really can make it. And so far, I have time for facial, and slimming course too. So, life is going on beautifully. See how good is my time management? kekekekkee.....

Australia Government Contributions

Its tax time now as it is end of financial year in Australia. New rules always announced on 1st July as this is the first day of new financial year. To low income family it is always good news because any implemented rules always a good contribution to low income family.

Basically to low income family if you over paid your tax you will always get refunded. This year government has changed to childcare benefit rebate 30%. Family who eligible to receive child care benefit will still get a further 30% rebate on the childcare fees that you paid out of your own pocket. This was not a cash refund, this 30% rebate childcare fee was only paid through tax system which will only lower your tax to be paid. But from 1/7/2007, this has changed which brings us good news, this 30% rebate will no longer done through tax system, government will now refund 30% cash right into our bank account if we are receving childcare benefit, and have a child in a approved childcare and have lodged our tax return. This means if your childcare fees is $350 per week, and if you are eligible to receive childcare benefits from government, then out of your pocket you actually pay $200 to childcare and government pays $150 directly to childcare. Then at the end of financial year when you do your tax, you will get further 30% refund of the total fees you paid out of your pocket.

Another new contribution from government is, our superannuation ( in malaysia we called EPF). if your income is not more than $59,800 per year, on top of the super that your employer pays to your superfund, if you contribute some on your own to your super fund, said one year you contribute $1,000 out of your pocket or from salary sacrifice, then government will co-contribute another $1,000 to your super fund which double up your total contribution. $1,000 a year just as little as $20 per week. Not a big deal to contribute that little fund into your own super fund that will give you a big big different of funds to receive when you are retiring. I have calculated from my husband's super, he is contributing $20 to $25 per week to his super, at his retirement, he will have about $400,000++. If he does not contribute, he will gets only about $280,000 at retirement at today dollars. With now government

co-contribution to our super, it makes even more. Therefore I really encourage people just simply contribute abit because it makes different to your retirement. It is a very good investment for my future life.

Break-up disease

Break-up is actually a disease. I heard that from a song. I partially agree with it too. Last time after breaking up with my ex-bf, I can continuously heard my friend said that they turned single and available. Does it really spreadable?

I think it's because of our age. At age of 26 that time, perhaps many of the old time couple from school might just changed their preferences after working life. Because I don't see peoples break-up after my break-up this year :P hahahahah at age of 28, peoples are tend to be more stable. How I wish to have stable life, with a bf, and perhaps this bf can be husband later, who I can rely on when I need to, support me when I am weak......

What other age of guy who get this disease? Introduce to me. hahahhahaha.....

Safety awareness

Yesterday I went to Cheras Leisure Mall for my grocery shopping at Giant Supermarket. I enjoyed so much picking yogurt drinks, and juices (mixer). And I thought of I should get a wine opener, as I'll get the wines that I ordered this Friday.

Then I was holding the heavy till kamolan's drinks. I looked around. And I think that's the aisle that with wine opener. So I enter, and at the same time a guard passed by me, and I saw another Bangla in the aisle. Perhaps I am not good, I have stereotype the person. I told myself, hah...must be the guard suspected the Bangla wanna steal something. Then I didn't care. I continue to walk nearer to the Bangla, because the place where he stood is actually where I could probably find the opener. Before I reach there, another Bangla walked from another end enter to the same aisle. I think he was looking for his friend. I continued looking for the wine opener. Suddenly, the guy stood there originally pick up a knife from the shelf, then I realised that I could be in trouble. I was sweating, and actually very scare, I didn't know to move. Luckily my response was back in few second, and I left the place immediately. I can't imagine that if the two Bangla are bad one, what am I gonna be.

I told myself before not to go near to shelves that sell knife. But I never remember what I told myself. stubborn ass....

Alice comment

Alice asked me a question. What am I doing on Saturday morning, because she saw me wake up pretty early.

I couldn't sleep much these days, I guess when a person is getting old, the person does not need much sleep, just needs enough sleep. I couldn't even take nap after I wake up. And I have to sleep very early these days.

She envy my life that I can wake up by myself, and enjoy the whole morning by my own. There are good and bad points. I wish I could have my love one with me "sometimes" too. It's just that I do not need to wake up very early to prepare things for my kids, and family.

She even more envy me when I told her that I was actually having my breakfast (the leftover Egyptian bread) with red wine. haha....and I online, and doing mask at the same time. I practice multi-tasking all time.

I am glad that she told me I look like I am gonna have very good marriage life. However, I couldn't imagine where should I place myself now, as my marriage life image is getting blur. And it's actually change from time to time, I have had better one last time.

She also comment that I look like modern strong lady. I don't really like to be that way, if I could stay weak. Why not? then I can do other things that I want. I am trying to be strong, because I need to adapt to the single lady life to keep my own competency to be in this society. It's very tired, and expensive to keep this life on. I wish to get sponsorship hahahaha....