Merry Christmas

It's a while that I do not blog! Anyway, Merry Christmas to everyone~
I wish all of our wish will come true!!!


How's my Christmas eve?
I tried to do something with my bf. I asked to go movie together, but he said many peoples. Then he told me his plan to meet his family and friends. Fine, which I don't like.
Unfortunately, in the evening he call me that he had a car accident that I am sorry about. It's lucky that he is nothing, thanks god!
Then he continued his plan.

So myself, I met Shon, and Heng for drink in the evening. Then Heng invited us to join Wai Ling's (Ling is Heng's wife)brother in law birthday. Sound like 9 ng dap 8, but I went for it. It's simply because I thought I would have met up my bf's plan is "boiling soup". Of course I need to fill in my own time. Then I suppose to meet Adrian, but my phone battery flat. So we end up didn't get a chance to meet.


Do you see I sound like a "ching fu"? Am I seem like having an affair with my bf? I remember my ex-bf also didn't celebrate the Christmas, and New Year with me, because he need to be with his affair gf. This feeling isn't good. I really hate it!

It could be unfair to my bf, becoz he might not cheated me, but from my experience, I just don't feel right.

Air Asia Customer Service

Guess what? Air Asia is discriminating certain customer group?

They treat customers differently.

I wonder how do they treat?

Our flight was delay for more than 3 hours. Myself received one compensation voucher (while I made 2 persons booking), other colleagues and suppliers also received the RM 200 voucher respectively for the compensation.

Therefore I made a complain to get another voucher, which my colleague entitled. However, the customer service told me, no we are not supposed to have it. But how can other passenger entitled for it but not the only one? What's the problem with the only one, but not others? I wonder.

The customer service is also so great! I made the complaint and first reply was on 6/7/09. Right after first reply, I dropped a message again on the same day 6/7/09, and they replied on 27/8/09. How does a big company like Air Asia set their staff KPI? To reward staff for “slow motion”, “slow in reply”, “slow in taking action”?

Customer service is an important department that portray company image. Is that portraying that Air Asia service/corporate image is so damn suck?? Or is that the image that portrays Air Asia is really a low cost carrier that ignores customer experience with them?

I would really urge you to take other alternative like Firefly, Tiger Airways, MAS Airlines, or even train/bus if you travel Malaysia locally.

They are friendlier, and much better compared to Air Asia.

Subway Quality is Getting Bad

My beloved Subway kept disappointing me. So sad~

It's the only place I found nice wrap since I came back from Canada.
However, the quality is getting worst.
I had it at The Garden, Mid Valley outlet yesterday.

The peoples who prepared food looks dirty. Their T-shirt did not tight-in, and the t-shirt contacted with the wrap when he took meat/cheese from tray. The flies were flying, without being chased away. I was so frustrated.

Customers are getting more in, the waiter went into kitchen to get more helper out. The helper was like just wake up. Wear his glove slowly, with his wet hands (OMG!!) Then he wrapped my wrap .......

Have you ever seen a square wrap????
And it is broken.

I asked the cashier, does Subway provide training to the workers before they attend customers.
The answer is NO!

Oh...And for Adrian bill, they charged wrongly. They double charged for his drink. Due to too many peoples ordering for buka puasa, Adrian just requested to get another cup for his drink, instead of refund. Too bad, the receipts were kept back that Adrian reluctant to take back. Else I will show you here.

SO SO SO DISAPPOINTED!!!!
Need to find substitution for Subway here. Any suggestion?

Coco....My Sweetie

I have been sleeping in Mom's room for few days, because dad is in China trip :)
Last night I slept in mom's room again.

Coco went on the bed, kept kissing me during mid night.
I smelled something - smelly, but too sleepy, I ignore.

I do not know who open the door for Coco to Pangsai (poo poo).
Mom asked me why didn't I clean Coco poo poo when mom is back.

haa.....and when I woke up today, I saw Coco's pillow next to me. I bet she slept next to me last night.

It's very sweet that can stay with Coco....I love it!

彩虹 rainbow

What's special about rainbow?
:P the lyrics is just very good that....

没有地球太阳还是会绕
没有理由我也能自己走


Let's listen to it!!!


周杰伦 - 彩虹
作曲:周杰伦 作词:周杰伦
www.52geci.com 刘旭东 制
哪里有彩虹告诉我
能不能把我的愿望还给我
为什么天这么安静
所有云都跑到我这里

有没有口罩一个给我
释怀说了太多就成真不了
也许时间是一种解药
也是我现在正服下的毒药

看不见你的笑 我怎么睡得着
你的身影这么近我却抱不到
没有地球太阳还是会绕
没有理由我也能自己走

你要离开 我知道很简单
你说依赖 是我们的阻碍
就算放开 那能不能别没收我的爱
当作我最后才明白

有没有口罩一个给我
释怀说了太多就成真不了
也许时间是一种解药
也是我现在正服下的毒药

看不见你的笑 我怎么睡得着
你的身影这么近我却抱不到
没有地球太阳还是会绕
没有理由我也能自己走

你要离开 我知道很简单
你说依赖 是我们的阻碍
就算放开 那能不能别没收我的爱
当作我最后才明白
看不见你的笑
要我怎么睡得着
你的身影这么近我却抱不到
没有地球太阳开始环绕环绕
没有理由我也能自己走掉
是我说了太多就成真不了
也许时间是一种解药解药
也是我现在正服下的毒药

你要离开 我知道很简单
你说依赖 是我们的阻碍
就算放开 那能不能别没收我的爱
当作我最后才明白

我听见有人叫你宝贝 I heard someone calling you babe...

I listened to this song before, and I found the guy is so "small gas".
But when it happened to you, what would you do?

For me, I tried to ignore. But shall I ignore?
That's nothing, but it can be something.
As a girl, I would expect something from the guy when he is calling me babe.

If the guy is giving chance, wow, cool why not.....

Well let's look at the lyrics! It's almost like what I will do.

我听见有人叫你宝贝 林健辉 歌词

作词：李宗盛 作曲：李宗盛

你问我为什么 不再给你安慰
在寒风中漫步有家不回
好几天不见面也无所谓
你问我为什么 把你的信退回
又把照片撕碎毫不后悔
你问我为了什么 开始喝酒
而且每次都喝醉

不要说我做得不对
不要说你永远不会
因为我在无意间听见有人叫你宝贝
不要说这是个误会
请不要在我面前流泪
因为我明明听见有人叫你宝贝
你让他叫你 宝贝

你问我为什么 不再给你安慰
在寒风中漫步有家不回
好几天不见面也无所谓
你问我为什么 把你的信退回
又把照片撕碎毫不后悔
你问我为了什么 开始喝酒
而且每次都喝醉

不要说我做得不对
不要说你永远不会
因为我在无意间听见有人叫你宝贝
不要说这是个误会
请不要在我面前流泪
因为我明明听见有人叫你宝贝
你让他叫你 宝贝

不要说我做得不对
不要说你永远不会
因为我在无意间听见有人叫你宝贝
不要说这是个误会
请不要在我面前流泪
因为我明明听见有人叫你宝贝
你让他叫你 宝贝

Think

Think over again,

I think I still prefer single life. Thought of to get married, I really wish to commit, and I tried. But I think not the right time, or may be marriage is just a commitment that I dare not touch as I do not feel comfortable with the current moment.

How much do you know your "future partner"?
Without knowing much, is that worth to further invest in the relationship?
Surface is not enough. What you see is what you get is not true.

How sincere the partner is about marriage?
If you were to follow wedding custom that burden the partner, the effect will later come to yourself as you both share the family later.
How much expectation you can lower down? There is a limit. Abolish all is a good idea, it is as good as cancel the wedding.

How much freedom would you scarify for a family?
Nothing that you need to scarify?
Is that true statement?
What about your lifestyle? your time?
Would you be able to keep it the same?
if yes, who is gonna responsible for the responsibility at home? (i.e. the kid, not to mention kids)

You have to put in money for the family, and reduce your activities.
Are you ready and willing to do so?
Can you keep drunk and drive?
What if accident happened?
Who is gonna take care of the family?
If you were not dead, who is going to take care of you?
What kind of burden would you put to your family?
If you were good luck that no accident is happened, can your body take the amount of alcohol that you drink?
Your health is important to support the family.

Can you trust your partner?
Why can't you trust the partner?
What are the things that you suspect?
why suspect to make life goes bad?
Clarification, and yet argument still happened.
Silent is good, but kill the relationship slowly, or could be very fast.

Think simple. Ignore the questions above.
What would happen later?

Ignore all problems, and what will come later?

Keep things away from the partner, what will happen later?
It could be real good that more partners later come to both.
Then, what's the point to keep this relationship?

What if you were very smart to keep the affair forever?
You are really thinking that everyone is stupid.
The truth will come later.
You have to bare the consequences that you might not want.

If you knew things would happen, why not stay back?

As I see, you can't change a person. The person should also stay as what they like, and what they have developed. You can move on, and let go, let both of you getting your freedom, and find what you actually want.

Free Life

after 2 years hard work...finally I finished my study. (result is not out yet, but assume I pass!)

I am glad that I will earn back my weekend!!!!
I am not only enjoying my Friday night, but also Saturday night!!!!

What do I wanna do first?

I wanna clean up my house. It's too dusty that I have my nose and eyes sensitive.
I can't take it anymore.

Then I need to clear out the study notes, and some old clothes to free up some space!

It's been too busy to clean up....
The stomach clean up is also important (diet :P)


***PHEW!!!!!***

Coco on Dining Table!

It's a family day out that we went to Genting yesterday. While we are not home, Ho Ho (Wayne's gf) shot this picture to show us.

We are still wondering how Coco climbed up to the dining table as the chairs could not be her "stepping stone".

My parents just laugh without scolding Coco. Even Coco goes on their bed, they were like ....wahhhh it's COOL! :P nothing more than praise her smart girl...

I wanna faint~

Fate, 緣 . . .

I received this email from Alice. It's a story about fate.

從前有個書生 , 和未婚妻約好在某年某月某日結婚 .
到那一天 , 未婚妻卻嫁給了別人 . 書生受此打擊 , 一病不起 .
家人用盡各種辦法都無能為力 , 眼看奄奄一息 .
這時 , 路過一游方僧人 , 得知情況 , 決定點化一下他 .

Once upon a time, there is a student who has engaged with his fiance, and they planned to get married on X day, X month and X year. And when the day came, the fiance already married another guy. The student was so sad, and he got sick seriously.

His family tried every possibility to save him, but he seems like dying soon. At this moment, there is a monk by pass the area, and he got to know this matter, and he thought of to pay a visit to this guy, to talk to him.

僧人到他床前 , 從懷裡摸出一面鏡子叫書生看 .

The monk came to his bed, and show him a mirror.

書生看到茫茫大海 , 一名遇害的女子一絲不掛地躺在海灘上 .
路過一人 , 看一眼 , 搖搖頭 , 走了 ....
又路過一人 , 將衣服脫下 , 給女屍蓋上 , 走了 ....
再路過一人 , 過去 , 挖個坑 , 小心翼翼把屍體掩埋了 ............
疑惑間 , 畫面切換 . 書生看到自己的未婚妻 . 洞房花燭 ,
被她丈夫掀起蓋頭的瞬間 ...
書生不明所以 .

The student saw a naked lady dead body at the beach. The first pedestrian passed by just felt pity to the girl, and shake his head then left. The second pedestrian took off his own clothes to cover the naked dead body, then he left. The third pedestrian buried the body.

Out of sudden, the mirror changed to another scene, where the fiance wedding's day. And he saw the fiance's with her current husband.

The student couldn't understand what is that indicate.

僧人解釋道 , 那具海灘上的女屍 , 就是你未婚妻的前世 .
你是第 2 個路過的人 , 曾給過他一件衣服 . 她今生和你相戀 , 只為還你一個情 .
但是她最終要報答一生一世的人 , 是最後那個把她掩埋的人 , 那人就是他現在的丈夫 .

The monk explained, the dead body was the student's fiance previous life. The second pedestrian was him who gave the dead body his clothes, therefore, this life they were in love, to pay back. But the person she has to payback forever is the person who buried her in previous life, that's her this life husband.
書生大悟 , 唰地從床上做起 , 病癒 !

The student understood it in sudden, and he woke up from bed, and he recovered from his sickness.

I told my dad this story. And he said, he must be paying back to Coco this life, because Coco woke him up so many times each night he still loves her so much.

I told him yeah....may be Coco was the second pedestrian to you. But dad, remember, I was the third pedestrian in your previous life who buried you. So it's more for you to pay back to me in this life. :P

Taurus Birthday Celebration - Round 1

It's third year celebrating birthday together with Shan Shan, my love one. The first year we had buffet on mothers' day, the second year we went Cafe Cafe, and this is third year we went to The Werners KL, where my latest favorite place.

Wine is our main aim to this restaurant, as the wine menu is 32 pages, and the variety is there.




This is the white wine that we ordered, Gewurztraminer. It tasted very good, and not expensive.

aii.....just to show how fat am I right now....
Tapas 1: Shrimp with avocado sauce
Tapas 2: Cheese...ah i forgot what cheese it is....

Tapas 3: Beef with not sure what cheese.
Tapas 4: Mushroom..my favourite
And lastly, we ordered a plate of assorted cheese to taste with wine.
This is the latest promotion that they have.






After having our dinner at Werners, we went to No Black Tie, which located next two street.




The jazz performance last night was not so interesting. We left earlier, old folk like us feel tiring easily :P

The Ring

My husband has bought me a gift card for my birthday since March but I did not use it until last Sunday. I was actually thinking to use the gift card to buy a vacuum or something that I need for home.

We bought a vacuum couple weeks ago but i forgot to use it. Then I window shopped for abit but couldnt find anything that I really need to buy. Until last week I saw this ring on the catalgue and straightaway I fell in love with it. I checked out the ring at the shop but did not try.

Till last Sunday went shopping with husband and took him to have a look on the ring. He likes it too from first sight and urged me to try which I did. Straightaway I fell in love to this ring also. Within 10 minutes me and the sale lady sealed the deal happily and walked out the shop!

I don't usually buy expensive Jewellery except real gold but this time I was somehow desired it.

Free Cruise

My brother Thomas is working for Herbalife and he achieved his goal of taking the 11 days totally free cruise from Sydney to New Caledonia and Vanuata.

On top of that because of he has reached higher sale target that allowed him to upgrade his room to a VIP room that is way bigger and also has a balcony.

Furthermore he could bring one more person to go on board with no cost also. Instead of taking his gf he took my mum coz his gf thought family should come first. Hmm...what a nice gf !

I think to some other girls if the bf took mum to holiday that gf sure manjak already !

Mum had been sick for the first 2 days. Thats what called sea sick caused her non stop vomitting and she was hardly take in any food. When my brother saw her vomitting he vomited once also.

There are few things that mum and my brother have mentioned about the cruise that I would like highlight here.

1) Mum told me for the first day she was exploring the cruise so she walked everywhere and she realised that there are many big envelopes hanging everywhere. She did not know what was that for until one day she was walking and suddenly she wanted to vomit so she just grabbed those envelop and puked inside. Since then she realised what are those envelopes used for.

2) Food are totally free no matter its buffets or Formal dinner. There are abosultely free. Herbalife are encouring people to to eat well and to lose weight but on the cruise they have forgot about it. All they did was enjoy their food to the max. Imagine 3 dishes for main course???

3) Herbalife has been really generous. Even tips that payable to waiter/waitress were prepared by Herbalife by putting money into envelops and given to Herbalife members to give to the waiter/waitress. How nice !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

4) One day mum and few friends went to pool. As soon as they jumped into the pool all other people who are westerners have disappeared from the pool in less than 5 minutes. Their racism and attitude are absolutely obvious which really really disgusted ! FYI - the cruise are not all for Herbalife members. The cruise take 2000 passengers. Herbalife had about 200 members on board so the rest are passengers either from Australia or other countries.

5) Mum told me there was a conference held by the cruise for each department to introduce what are their responsible and who should be contacted for particular services. When a lady from laundry service was on the stage given speech and advised should anyone have any question can ask her. A friend who sat next to my mum trying to tell my mum that his bath towel is white too and was taken by room service person who may thought its the cruise asset too. He wanted to ask if he could get his own bath towel back. There was this westerner lady in the front row turned her head back and " shuuu shuuu shuuu shuuu" to give sign to mum and the friend that they should stop talking. Mum told me that she was speaking too with her friends and very loud. Once again racism !! why she could speak and others cannot???? Another disgusted incident that I heard ! If I was there I wont keep my mouth shut !

Other than these 2 disgusted incidents I guess they were all enjoyed so much on the TOTAL FREE CRUISE for 11 DAYS !!!!!

The cruise arrived back in Sydney early in the morning. And mum insisted to take Adam down to the city to farewell the cruise in the evening. She was crazy because she hates going to city but that day it was cold and wet wet weather but still wanted to go !!! Lucky we were right on time to see the cruise leaving ! Mum was sad to see it leaving.

Friend with Needs

A friend rectify my post, Relationship Definition?
He told me that I have got a word wrong.

I talked about fuck mate. It should be fuck buddy :)
Well, he also told me that there is a new term for this term. It is called "friend with needs".

Ha...it's so cool ha...
This sound better.

I felt like peoples needs are different also.
Some peoples needs these "friends" for
1) Sexual needs
2) talking needs (to get audience)
3) love needs
4) companion needs
5) Caring needs
6) Excitement needs
and more....

It is also difficult to find friend with needs, where you can meet their needs hay~ :P

Can Colleagues be Personal Friend?

The radio station was discussing a topic, can colleagues be your personal friend?

The argument of course with two sided. Some audience called in and said "NO".
They said there is always no friend friend stories among colleague. Colleagues are colleagues, you can never relax with them, as they are reminding you the workplace, and your works.

I love someone said, "OF COZ colleagues can be friends. Friend is meant for chut mai (betray in English). Therefore, it is okay to betray colleagues. As if you do not golden point (said some bad things about colleagues), then you are not qualified to be promoted."

And I also love a girl's innocent. She said as long as she has the capability, she is not afriad of the colleagues golden point her. So she is fine to have colleagues as friends. And she is closed with them.

What I think would be, it is really depends on the person's position in the company, and the job scope.

If you think your job has no threat, for example, if you were an admin clerk. Then to get colleagues as friends is okay, it would not affect you. And probably you won't be able to get too close with the bosses/colleagues.

If you were a higher ranking management staff, say manager. It is better for you to keep a distance, as it would be easier for you to work or assign jobs.

It is important to differentiate where workplace is, and where fun place is. Do not mix up them!

I had a dream

I have this dream last week. It's a very strange dream that I can still remember clearly after woke up. I remember it, and I felt guilty about it.

The dream was this.


I was walking at a padestrian walkway. A grey doggie was following me, it seems like Husky. However, my mind was telling me, I can't afford to spend time and money to another dog besides Coco. So I can't take it home.

Then, when passed by a pet shop, I went into it, and wanted to tell the shop worker that, I do not want the dog. Please bring it to proper place like SPCA. But the worker was busy, she heard I do not want the dog. The she said "okay, let me finish something then come to you. Please wait."

So I was waiting at the selling floor, seeing the products on shelves. There is also a small theater area to introduce more about animals.

While I was so into seeing the video, the worker came. She told me "everything is fine, and the total included "dah zai" is RM 29.90." I was so shocked!!!!

WHATTT???? Dah zai>???? it means the dog already died.

I didn't mean it. I didn't mean to kill the dog!!!

The lady somemore said, the dog does not know itself dead, it will know by the first 7th day after it died.

My goodness....I kill the dog!!! in my dream


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Footnote:
1. "Dah Zai: It is part of the taosm ceremony when people die. It helps to reduce the sin that they did during their life time."

2. 7th day: Chinese always believe that the soul of the dead people will always come back on the 7th day.

Masak-Masak

As usual, I have a quick cook with Jason last night.
Can you imagine, if a potato dropped on floor, without washing, and quickly put it back to the pot.
Will you eat it???

The Mr. Jason forced me to eat it!

释觉灯

在婆婆丧礼，唯一让人提起精神的是，释觉灯师父的念经session.
We had rap during his session, and because he is young, and hen sem, we are kind of awake a bit.
Else, it's sad that grandma passed away, and still having dull environment.

Normally he is servicing at 香山寺, where located in Penang island.
Perhaps if there is a day we shall visit that temple to rap with him again.

His rap is so strong, and memorable that you can still hear it even you were not there.
It's agreeable by everyone of us!

By the way, he has the monk clothes, and normal sandal, very "in" mobile phone, and very nice (seems expensive) watch. I bet he is very professional monk (who charge).

*** He used to help my 4th aunt to "rap" too, he wasn't so good, but better now!***

MBA Not a Good Choice to Look for Partners

Today I just found out one thing. A potential couple is not a couple, they have their bf and gf already.

Initial thought to go for MBA was to get myself busy, and enlarge my network. And if possible, I could find my future partner there.

Well, up until now, the friends who graduated, and myself, non of us are couple. We found our partner else where not from class. ha ha...

It's so funny that many of us initially seems like there is chance. But at the end, we are not lol :P

It's kind of good also, because we don't have to keep the partner who remind us about assignments and exams. We want better chat :P

Hospitalized Coco

I miss Coco so much!! She is hospitalized at Kota Kemuning, where 40 mins away from home.
She has no health problem, I just brought her to spay in order to let her have better health later, and also better social opportunity later.

She looks so sad laying in the cage. She couldn't see us at first, because her big big collar is covering her sight. Then when we called her Coco....she was waking up slowly, and jumping in the cage. That hurt her wound so much. The vet then opened the door wanted to let her touch her, she quickly came out from the cage when she saw the cage opened. My goodness, that again hurt her.

So we quickly put in her toys (no milo/flower/fruit allowed in this hospital), let her play with her toys when she is bored.

According to the vet, she didn't wanna eat if the food without milk. She is usually eating like our corn flakes breakfast with milk. Then she also very emotionally, hates the vet because make her pain pain. She wanted to bite them. Vet complaint that, Coco is unlike other golden retriever, she is not friendly :P

Hm......While Coco is not home, the 3 legs cat always taking chance to come into my parents house. Today when she walked into the house, I called her come. She came to my leg, and then trying to play with me. I used to hate her, because she always bullies my Coco. However, when you see her closer, she is really pitiful. Her leg is really cut by someone that made her disable. Jason tried to touch her last night, she was so fierce to him, and wanted to bite him. I surprised that she let me touch, and wanted my dad to touch her too.

Taurus

It's interesting to see these about Taurus, which is me. Who am I?

Patient and reliable
Warmhearted and loving
Persistent and determined
Placid and security loving

On the dark side....

Jealous and possessive
Resentful and inflexible
Self-indulgent and greedy

And I found a few of the paragraph that I like and quite true to me.

Although their physical appearance may belie it, they have a strong aesthetic taste, enjoying art, for which they may have a talent, beauty (recoiling from anything sordid or ugly) and music. They may have a strong, sometimes unconventional, religious faith. Allied to their taste for all things beautiful is a love for the good things of life pleasure, comfort, luxury and good food and wine and they may have to resist the temptation to over indulgence, leading to drunkenness, gross sensuality, and covetousness.

They are more than averagely amorous and sensually self-conscious, but sexually straightforward and not given to experiment. They make constant, faithful, home loving spouses and thoughtful, kindly parents, demanding too much of neither their spouses nor children.

Source from: http://www.astrology-online.com/taurus.htm

Imagination

Recently, I have thought about marriage. Am I qualified?
Let's make some assumptions:
If va:L want to get married, and plan to have 1-2 kids.

1) What's the reason to get married?
The possibility would be,
a) She is pregnant, but do not want to remove the infant, because it is illegal.
b) Time to get married, because she is at the age that everyone is marrying moreover she found a very lovely husband.
c) The man is a handsome, financial stable, aggressive in his career, and lovely man.

2) Can va:L handle kids?
a) ehm...ehhmm.....va:L is wondering. Most probably not, as a working class woman.
b) The kids might be left at the shopping mall, by the time reach home, va:L could be still changing her new clothes without noticing that.
c) va:L definitely prefer to stay home to take care of the kids full time, if the family financial is allowed.
d) va:L needs a lot of attentions. Without proper attention from the husband, the kids might be the victim, and the newspaper could be reported about child abuse. She has the tendancy. Another possibility would be the child might be left unattended, and va:L might be out to else where for drinking.

3) Problems?
The biggest problem that va:L has is actually her communication skill. Then followed by her relationship management skill. I would have rated her as super poor. She would try to accomodate all requests, and love him at her best, but she doesn't know how to manage the relationship to tell what she wants. She gives up easily wheneve she found difficult, the reason is simple. She just doesn't want to change someone's thought/lifestyle. She think she doesnt qualify. She rather suffer for few months than suffer forever with the communication problems.


Guys, if you were looking for partner, yeah, I will be the right one. If you were looking for wife, I am sorry. I wanted to try, but I don't think I am qualified.

Relationship definition?

I doubt, what are the differences between below:
1) Friendship
2) Good friend vs best friend
3) bf/gf vs partner vs fuck mate (which is in trend)

I guess....
1) Friendship, are the friend that you value so much, which you think the friends worth to be friends, they would not betray you, they are always with you if you were reasonable. True friends would be always with you without making unnecessary problems to you.

2) Good friend vs best friend.
Good friends can be many, best friends just need to be 1 or 2. You only meet good friends once a while, but you meet best friends very often or you communicate with them very often. You will miss your best friends whenever you don't see them.

3) bf/gf vs partner
To be franked, I don't see the different between these two.
I see partner has better communication, as they might have some deal to keep the relationship. It doesn't need to be affair, but it can be something like soul mate. Both with some "love" to develop the relationship.

Fuck mate. Fuck mate can be partner, but they can't be bf/gf, because there is no commitment at all. However, bf/gf that have sexual activities, but do not wanna commit, it's rather more towards fuck mate. Fuck mate is with almost zero of love in the relationship, or it could be one-way relationship.

**Fuck mate is not a new term, I heard of it 3 years ago. A friend defined it to me. **

Something interesting that I heard, partner, and fuck mate could turn back as friend, but bf/gf can hardly turn back to friend once break up. Why? Too much expectation? Too much disappointment?

Sometimes I found soul mate is better. You don't have the expectation on him/her, you find him/her when you need to talk. Though it's something like best friends, but soul mate is something that more than best friends, yet will not be best friend forever.

It's so complicated, yet, this is life.

Once in a relationship, is that mean you possess him/her forever? Who knows...
It doesn't mean that you already have someone always there, at home.
If you do not maintain the relationship, you can't expect to have the same outcome as the beginning.

*** The above is the author thought, and what she heard, it is not from any of the research***

Friendsss, miss u all!

Ha....counting down, counting down, counting down...

Pei San is coming back in May, can't wait!!!!
Soo Yee might come back in July/August, can't wait!!!!
Alice is coming back in Oct/Nov, can't wait!!!!

I really can't wait to see all of them!!!

And Tyan Ling who just came back, who is moving to Cheras today.
Ha....more kaki to hang out joR!!!

Woman kills son, self at gun range @ Yahoo!7 Video

The Associated Press reports that 44-year-old Marie Moore left recorded messages saying,"I had to send my son to heaven and myself to Hell."

The teary audio recordings were reportedly left for her boyfriend and authorities.

The shooting happened at the Shoot Straight range in Casselberry, about 10 miles north of Orlando.

The motive for the murder-suicide is still unclear.

"We have no clue. I don't even want to begin to speculate," said Deputy Chief Bill McNeil of the Casselberry Police Department, according to the AP.

The security video from the gun range shows Marie Moore walking up behind her son as he lifts his gun at a target in front of him. She the points a gun at the back of his head.

In later frames, the firing booth is empty.

The son died at the scene, while it's thought his mother died later in hospital.

It's understood Moore had a history of mental illness.

The AP reports that in her recorded message she says, "I'm sorry to do this in your place of business, but I had to save my son.

"God made me a queen and I failed. I'm a fallen angel. He turned me into the Antichrist."

If you are suffering from mental illness and need assistance please do not contact this blogger. Thank you.

Mom Geng!

Guess what?

Mom knows how to use flikr.com to upload pictures, not only from computer, but from her new mobile phone too, using streaming! SAI LEI!!!

Mom always up to date ....:P

Coco Latest Update

Coco is fine, Coco is good, Coco is naughty, Coco is crazy. Coco is the princess at home....



Coco is relaxing in front of the fan, 吹吹风 (Choi Choi Fong) She was carrying a towel here and there, and want Jason and I to pull from her. Then we tight it on her eyes (to close her eyes, she was very angry), then to tie it on her neck, then her head, just like this :P

Coco normally is on chair either with mom/with dad. See how my dad likes it. Sometimes Coco seems like understand what TV is showing too. She will watch TV without looking else where.
Coco cari makan! She loves to come to dining table to cari makan, which I don't like. But because parents give her food, so she returns.
Ha....this is my cousin's twins daughter. She was on Coco. I like this....

Coco is sleeping with her blanket and U shape pillow. sweet dream~

Worst Than Being a Prostitute

Last Saturday, Mel, she commented "Sometimes I found it is more suffering to be a white collar worker than being a prostitute."

When I heard of it, I was laughing.
But when I got home, this sentence is still floating in my mind until now.

I don't deny that being a white collar is suffering, but I can't compare with another totally different industry of job, prostitution. As never been specialized in the industry :P

Just to measure white collar's pressure,
yeah it is really suffering to some peoples including me.
It is quite annoying to see other white collar using cunning strategies to climb to higher in the company hierarchy.
It is annoying to see peoples acting in the company, which just for self protection.
There are too many selfish moreover stupid (and thought they are clever peoples 兰聪明） peoples that 烂泥扶不上墙！(it's a proverb in Chinese that saying low quality of mud cannot be stick on the wall, if direct translate).

The world is full with these peoples! We just need to find way to adapt ourselves in this condition, and use their strategy to treat them. They prefer that way!

Go Iranian Way

I was in a HR class last Saturday afternoon. We were discussing about working culture. The lecturer pointed at an Iranian classmate and asked, "What about you?"

The girl replied:
"Sir, I do not know. As I never work before."

The lecturer and the rest of the students were so envy the lady, as everyone said..."COOL!"
The girl continue to say, "I am here not because of going to work too. I am here because this is the only entertainment to me! As Iranian, lady does not required to work. During younger time, father is responsible for the expenses. When married, husband is responsible for the expenses. We are not required to work. For guys, if family is rich, they don't have to work either."

The lecturer then said, "Surprised, this is new to me, I thought only Korea."
I said, "No, suppose we have the same culture too! Husband pay for our expenses, but too bad." As deep in my heart I think, it's too bad that Malaysian husband cannot afford to pay for the wife living. And the wife need to put in effort to support the house hold expenses too.
How nice if we can go Iranian way. Thinking of should get an Iranian husband, who practice Iranian way!!!

What's Wrong with Me?

What's wrong with me recently?
I dreamed of Alston's dead body beside me.
I dreamed of him again last night that he brought his Malay wife, and two kids to my parent's house to look for me.

I don't know for what reason, I brought them to one of the room to stay in.
He then talked to me, which I can't remember what was the content like.

To be franked, I forgot about him already, I can't remember his look either.
And what happened to me recently that dreamed of him twice within a month time?

The dreams reminded me that it's March that we broke up, it's March that I got hurt, it's March that his birthday month (that same day as Alice) and March seems like not a good month to me either, where I always find out something that I don't want to know (that's hurt too).

It's April now, and usually April is a good month that usually I plan for trips for recover. Would it be better for me to take a break for trip? I really wanna break away next weekend, but I need to bring Coco to spay, and if possible to remove my wisdom tooth.

Perhaps July to visit "Xiao de". I texted him to book for his time already, hope that everything can be fixed by June.

Suggestion to your boss : Facebook, YouTube at work make better employees

MELBOURNE (Reuters) - Caught Twittering or on Facebook at work? It'll make you a better employee, according to an Australian study that shows surfing the Internet for fun during office hours increases productivity.

The University of Melbourne study showed that people who use the Internet for personal reasons at work are about 9 percent more productive that those who do not.

Study author Brent Coker, from the department of management and marketing, said "workplace Internet leisure browsing," or WILB, helped to sharpened workers' concentration.

"People need to zone out for a bit to get back their concentration," Coker said on the university's website (www.unimelb.edu.au/)

"Short and unobtrusive breaks, such as a quick surf of the Internet, enables the mind to rest itself, leading to a higher total net concentration for a days' work, and as a result, increased productivity," he said.

According to the study of 300 workers, 70 percent of people who use the Internet at work engage in WILB.

Among the most popular WILB activities are searching for information about products, reading online news sites, playing online games and watching videos on YouTube.

"Firms spend millions on software to block their employees from watching videos, using social networking sites or shopping online under the pretence that it costs millions in lost productivity," said Coker. "That's not always the case."

However, Coker said the study looked at people who browsed in moderation, or were on the Internet for less than 20 percent of their total time in the office.

"Those who behave with Internet addiction tendencies will have a lower productivity than those without," he said.

7 Cures For A Lean Purse

A very famous book by George S Clason called The Richest Man in Babylon was released in 1926 and still sells thousands of copies each year, with good reason: the advice in the book stands the test of time.

The book describes 'seven cures for a lean purse' and it's worth having a look at these cures and how they might be applied to your own finances.

The First Cure

The first cure is to 'start thy purse to fattening'. The key message here is to save. The book says that for every 10 coins you earn, spend only nine. The same principle can be applied to your own finances - save one tenth of what you earn. If you start this discipline early in life and maintain it, you'll find your financial resources will grow considerably over time.

The Second Cure

The second cure is to 'control thy expenditures'. The book makes it clear we need to separate our needs from our wants and not waste money on our wants when this money would be better saved or invested. So don't waste money on flat screen TVs, take away coffees and gadgets. Instead, save this money and put it aside to help contribute to your long-term financial wealth.

The Third Cure

The third cure is to 'make thy gold multiply'. The idea here is to invest excess capital wisely, in investments that will return your capital plus interest so you earn an income stream on your money.

The Fourth Cure

The fourth cure is 'guard thy treasures from loss'. This means not risking your principle investment chasing high returns. It's better to invest conservatively and aim for modest returns that try to make a quick buck.

The Fifth Cure

The fifth cure is to 'make of thy dwelling a profitable investment.' So make sure your family home is in a good location and maintain it so when you want to sell it, you'll get a good price (the fact you don't have to pay capital gains tax on the family home in Australia makes it a particularly profitable investment in this country.)

The Sixth Cure

The sixth cure is to 'insure a future income'. This means putting enough money aside for retirement and also making provisions for your family in case you die or are incapacitated. So make voluntary contributions over and above the contributions your employer makes to your super fund. And ensure you have life insurance and, if possible, income protection insurance.

The Seventh Cure

The seventh cure is to 'increase thy ability to earn'. This means actually wanting to increase your income. But it's not enough to want to be rich - you have to have definite targets. For example, a date you want to have your home paid off by, or a particular amount of money you want to save each month.

These cures seem simple, but it takes practice and patience to make them a real part of your life. If you do have the discipline to follow these cures, you'll find you will increase your nest egg significantly over time.

Don't Quit!

Interestingly, after drinking the prune's extract, I kept on lau-sai for 3 times already. The 3rd time is in my house. I found a book that I had for long time. Inside, there is a bookmark of my ex-bf.

It's from his ex-gf, who was before me, Pang Cui Ling to Teh Kien Leng.
Found their similarity, their hand writing also not nice :P hehe

anyway, the main thing I wanna blog is about the bookmark. It's "Don't quit".

DON'T QUIT!

When things go wrong, as they sometimes will,
when the road you're trudging seems all up hill,
when the funds are low, and the debts are high,
and you want to smile but you have so sigh,
when care is pressing you down a bit,
rest if you must,
but don't you quit.

Life is strange with its twists and turns,
as everyone of us sometimes learns,
and many a failure turns about,
when he might have won had he stuck it out.
Don't give up though the pace seems slow,
you may succeed with another blow.

Success is failure turned inside out,
the silver tint of the clouds of doubt,
and you never can tell how close you are,
it may be near when it seems so far.
So stick to the fight when you're hardest hit,
it's when things seem worse,
that you must not quit.

I realised that I am really someone who did not have the observation skill. With or without the bookmark, I didn't realise my bf (that time) is someone give up easily, and quit easily. I am terribly sorry.

He is someone who quit very easy, and never turn back to the things happened before, and he seldom mention about his past. He is someone that does not have history. His current friends' circle do not know his history either.

I am an easy person, if he does not willing to tell, I won't force, I won't ask. If he wanted to tell, he would tell me without I asking.

Same thing go with the current bf. I do not know much about his past. What he doesn't tell, I won't ask. But I will observe his current, hope that history and experience are not relevant to him. I do not know whether this is right or not, I just want to keep the privacy room for him. I really hope he appreciates that, and I would not need to step back the history step to face that "your man is having affair with another girl" cruel fact.

I do not tell my history much either, as he seems like not interested to know. Past seems like not important. Well, I think so, as I changed so much to keep myself stepping on the earth, and overcome problems by myself with family and friends support.

To be frank, I do not know what should and what should not share in a relationship. I do not know how to keep relationship like friendship like the book said. But I will try my best to do it. I hope that should be the way for couple.

Under Water Activities...

Have you ever pee in the water? Such as...in the swimming pool, or in the sea?
I do not mean the water that you use at bath tub. I believe you would not pee at where you are "soaking yourself" in it.

As from young, when we go swimming, mom and dad always told us to pee in the pool whenever we told them we want to go toilet. At first it is difficult to pee, really. May be because of the under water pressure. But after some time you practice, you found it easy. However, you need to control the colour of the water, and control the facial expression that not too excited when letting it out.

And from pool to sea, it is a bit difficult, perhaps because of the salty level of the water, and perhaps there could be some under water current? It really takes some time to let it out.

Have you ever seen some bubbles in the water? It is not fishes in the pool!!! It's someone fart in the pool!!!!! Observe it next time. When someone stand away from the group of peoples, and s/he doesn't move, it is either s/he is pee-ing or farting. Let me know I am not alone! (though I knew I am not alone since young too, many parents saying it loud to the kids, and during their practice, the kids look so "mou gu".

The Traditional Teoh Chew Restaurant, Goh Huat Seng Restaurant, Penang

When I was young, grandpa always order Goh Huat Seng steamboat delivery to home during Chinese New Year. Grandpa loved the braised ducks, and the 干炸 (gan zha) from the restaurant. It really taste good. Whenever I miss Teoh Chew food, I miss this restaurant.

After so many years, finally we are back to this restaurant after grandma funeral last 2 weeks.




It's located at the second shop of Lebuh Kimberley.


Here it is :) GOH HUAT SENG!!!

Their list of menu...

This is the braised duck that I mentioned.
This is fried vege, the special here is, they are using the crispy fish to fry, but it is not Ikan Bilis.
he he this is 干炸 (gan zha).....there is crab and prawn flavours.
This is Teoh Chew Tofu, where you can't get everywhere. You dip it into the sauce below, which taste like salty water to cool the tofu.
Teoh Chew like 紫菜 soup, with Teoh Chew fishball. The fish balls are so springy!!
This is another traditional cabbage. Usually Teoh Chew likes to braised the vegetable like cabbage to soften it like this.
ha....this is the most expensive dish. 海滲, I don't know what is it called in English.
It is 海滲 stuffed mince pork.

I always said I am really happy to have my meal at this restaurant, where I really really meant it. It really brings me a lot of memories.